Nowadays, in the era of information overload, it's a delicate dance on the line between FYI - (For Your Information) and IYF (In Your Face).
There are those who believe that louder is better. Even in the English language, texting a message in all capital letters (CAPS) is called SHOUTING!
Yet, everyone who wishes to communicate can do so more effectively if he or she perceives they have an audience; someone who will listen.
Should it be that the listener or audience is a willing one, what the speaker or communicator has to say could more probably be actually heard, and remembered, and in an atmosphere of positivity.
Presentation styles vary, both auditorily and visually. What will offend some, sounds or seems like really good information to others.
Harmony Rocks! The ideal, for some communicators, is to provide information that, when understood, will lead to harmonious relations, at home, at school, and at play, so to speak.
One of the leading Educators in the effort to achieve mutual understanding is Mr. Marshall Rosenberg. Whether the communication is between family members, or members of an organization, union, or government councils, Rosenberg's highly evolved Centre For Non-Violent Communication is to be recommended.
Marshall Rosenberg'sCentre For Non-Violent Communication is the link to learn.
It is an intrinsic need of human beings to engage in healthy discourse and interaction. However, there is a reason that the English expression "In Your Face!" has developed. Partly due to the relentless arrival of new (and not-so-new) information in the "Instant World", and partly due to economic & educational disparity, many good messages go unheeded. The content of such messages may be excellent, but the delivery "OTT" (British English for Over the Top). Potential listeners, those folks mentioned above, have had "enough, already!..Stop with the.....", and tune out completely. Your delivery feels like too much IYF to them. I concede, that even this article could be perceived as OTT or FYI to you, the reader, right now!
Job's gift was "Patience, Faith, and Reward". Bearing in mind, that when our mindfulness is not present, anger slides in the back door as an unwelcome guest. Sometimes, it even tarts itself up as "Righteous Anger", slithering through abandoned wardrobe items unnoticed, and rising up when we don the garb of "In the name of what's right", I shall stand against this injustice.
It really all depends on your point of view, and your conciously contructed, implemented goals. There is always a choice of how to behave. Boundaries are elusive, especially in the age of Facebook & gossip-based media. Sometimes it takes crossing one of those boundaries, and receiving the feedback from having done so, to be able to experience the truth of what's behind the agitation, and to learn a better way.
What's it to be? FYI or IYF? You choose.
